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Tigress Luv's (The Breakup Guru) Views on 'Grief'

Grief has many different reasons, but for most of us it is a way of purging and cleansing our souls - so we can feel renewed, we can free ourselves from useless clutter that stored would only impede our progress. It is much like a snake shedding its skin*.

But for some 'grief' becomes our security blanket. We hold onto grief because by holding onto the grief we are keeping the person we grieve over 'alive' in a sense. We are keeping the relationship alive. To let go of our grief and move on means to let go of our love/relationship and move on...and we are not ready to do that. Grief is the only remaining 'tie that binds'.

For others grieving is a way of honoring those we grieve over. For instance, when Dave died I grieved over him for a long time because I had the mistaken notion that if I were to stop grieving and get on with my life I would be betraying him somehow. After all, it wasn't his fault he died..and if I kept on living then I felt I was belittling his 'life', instead of honoring him. I really felt that any kind of happiness on my part was a betrayal to him and his memory. I felt I needed to grieve forever in order to honor and love him forever. In order to NOT betray him.

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For others 'grief' actually becomes our rebound relationship. We no longer have our mates so we replace them with a proxy - our grief. Our grief now becomes a substitute for our lost mates. It comforts us, it cradles us, it loves us. Grief becomes our new love!

But, all in all, for most 'grief' is a way to cleanse our souls of clutter so we can go on without baggage and enjoy life to its fullest. So let your grief flow, feel the pain, cry a thousand rivers. It is cleansing.

Stop fighting the grief because this only postpones and prolongs the natural cleansing.

Grief, too, will pass - as all things come to pass.

have you ever seen a snake shed his skin? ...

The snake simply outgrows it... the skin becomes a tight, painful noose around its neck, hampering its abilities to grow and flourish. So the snake crawls on its belly, banging against jagged rocks & squirming in pain, until at last the old, binding skin that made the snake so miserable is cast aside and gone and the snake feels rejuvinated, BRAND NEW.

Pain and hurt are just like that skin. We must learn to endure the struggle to break ourselves free from its binding grip, and so... We squirm in agony, but through the process we also know that there is a brand new us waiting to emerge.

The pain and hurt is not easy, but it gradually goes away and underneath its black veil a NEW person emerges. And the new person is better than ever. HANG IN THERE!

Love to All,
Tigress Luv, The Breakup Guru

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Getting To Commitment Mr. Steven Carter's great insights into relationship dynamics are presented here in an easy-to-understand language, and without overdoing the psychological perspectives. Many commitment questions are answered here in this book. A must read for anyone afflicted with commitment issues or involved with someone who is.

He's Scared, She's Scared Available for the first time in paperback, this follow-up to the phenomenally successful Men Who Can't Love tackles the issue of commitmentphobia, that persistent obstacle to truly satisfying contemporary relationships. Authors Stephen Carter and Julia Sokol explore why modern men and women are torn between the desire for intimacy and the equally intense need for independence. Drawing on numerous interviews and real-life scenarios, and written with humor, insight, and the kind of wisdom gained by personal experience, He's Scared, She's Scared offes guidance for all of us who want genuine, sustained intimacy with our romantic partners.

Men Who Can't Love This book saved me from going crazy and from wasting any more of my precious time with a man who is a consumate commitmentphobic. I got this book after a therapist friend of mine said that all my complaining and moaning about my commitmentphobic boyfriend sounded just like the people in this book she'd read - "Men Who Can't Love". I got on line and nabbed a copy. What a life saver! My jaw dropped as I read this book because it describes the behaviors of commitmentphobics precisely as I have been experiencing my boyfriend's behavior. It's so true that the more I pressed him for answers while trying to understand his avoidant behaviors, the more he withdrew from me. "I don't wanna talk about it" is his mantra. All his behaviors were laid out like his biography in this book. It was shocking and revealing at the same time.

I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality This is a great book for an inside look at Borderline Personality Disorder. If you have a person with BPD in life this book is a must have. If you have BPD it will help you understand that some of your behaviors that seem unusual to other are understandable and can be explained and treated.

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